I have been loving being a part of the "Celebrating MOM" event with Dana so far! I think it's going to be difficult to go back to normal when it's over. :o)
But today I wanted to give attention to something else: the absence of motherhood.
Amidst all these wonderful thoughts and memories of those who love us most, I can't help but think of those who can't share our joy. I'm thinking of two groups of women, really....
The first being the women who's mothers have passed on. Who, at this time of year, can only recall memories of joys shared in the past, and things they used to love to do with mom, and give to mom. Whether your mother died at your birth, or when she was 85, I can only imagine that it leaves a huge hole in your heart, and your life. And my heart goes out to you.
The other group of women I'm thinking of, are those who want to be mothers, but can't.
I know that there is a terribly large number of women who are not able to become pregnant, or when they do-their babies never make it into the world. And this holiday must be a painful reminder of what seemingly cannot be. That brings tears of pain instead of tears of joy.
So today I want to celebrate you; who can't call your mom to say "Happy Mother's Day!" this year. Who have no reason to buy flowers, or send a card. I'm so sorry for your loss.
And you; who have tried over and over to hear the word "mommy" said to you, and only receive heartbreak instead. Because I know that sometimes it takes the same strength to be a mom, as it does to not be.
So, if this is you: celebrate Mother's Day! Celebrate the things that you and mom used to do together, and the wonderful things she taught you. And celebrate the characteristics of Motherhood. Kindness, patience (...and more...and more patience!), selflessness, hard work, and love. And celebrate the fact that you can always be those things-with or without children.
"Biology is the least of what makes someone a mother." ~Oprah Winfrey
And please enjoy one of these, from me to you :o)
Happy Mother's Day.
(See what Dana's doing!)